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• Hacker News1After my dad died, we found the love lettersAfter the narrator's father died, they discovered love letters revealing a three-year secret relationship with Edward, a man from Canada. The father had lived closeted for nearly 40 years in an arranged marriage, finally finding happiness and authenticity with Edward in his final years. The narrator reflects on their distant relationship with their father, who was often absent but became a different person - joyful and glowing - when with his lover. Edward had sacrificed everything to be with him, expecting they would soon live openly together. The discovery brings both sweet understanding of who their father truly was and profound grief for the life he never got to live, while the mother feels her entire life was wasted on his deception.Understanding and empathy for the father's situation:Commenters debate whether to judge the father harshly or show compassion, considering the homophobic environment of the 1980s-90s when AIDS panic was widespread and being gay could mean social death, violence, or literal death. Many express empathy while others condemn his actions.Moral judgment of his deceptive behavior:Discussion centers on distinguishing between understanding his circumstances versus condemning his actions - particularly having affairs, lying to his lover about exclusivity, and preventing his wife from divorcing to rebuild her life, which many see as inexcusable.A current father's similar struggle:A gay married father with a young son shares his own situation of living a constructed identity, having affairs, and considering coming out despite the pain it will cause his family, seeking courage to end the deception and live authentically.
• Reddit science1Using scented products indoors changes the chemistry of the air, producing as much air pollution as car exhaust does outside, according to a new study. Researchers say that breathing in these nanosized particles could have serious health implications.Using scented products indoors, such as flame-free candles and wax melts, can create significant indoor air pollution comparable to car exhaust. Research by Purdue University found these products release nanosized particles that can penetrate deep into lungs and potentially enter the bloodstream, posing serious respiratory health risks.Misleading title scope:Discussion about how study only focused on wax melts but title suggests all scented products, with debate about whether findings could logically extend to other scented itemsHealth concerns from chemist:A chemist's perspective against using scented products leads to sharing of personal health impact stories, from COPD to cancer cases, and debate about necessity of artificial scentsAir purification solutions:Discussion of HEPA filters and other air purification methods as solutions, with debate about effectiveness against different types of pollutants like VOCs and nanoparticles
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